Girls Can Tell Podcast

Dating profiles are full of women who've been to 44 countries, have eight trips booked this year, mention travel in their bio four times, and have a detailed list of demands for a partner. Loyalty, presence, consistency, and someone who shows up. This episode is about that contradiction, what travel obsession says in a dating profile, what the relationship you'd be signing up for looks like, and why the person with the most stamps in their passport is often the least equipped to build something real with another person. After living through what that does to a relationship firsthand, I have some things to say about this that you might not like, but you need to hear.
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Most people believe that jealousy indicates something is wrong with them, that secure, emotionally healthy individuals don't experience it, and the goal is to move past it entirely. This episode argues the other side. Jealousy isn't some character flaw, and dismissing it because someone convinced you that the feeling itself was the problem might be the most costly mistake you make in a relationship.
This episode explains the two kinds of jealousy, and one of them is telling you something you should probably listen to. I call bullshit on people in open relationships, and discuss what it means when jealousy happens at inappropriate times, and how it can ruin your chances of dating.
If you're one of the 8.3 billion people on the planet who've ever been jealous, this one's for your listening pleasure.
Video versions of the weekly podcast are always available on:
YouTube
Spotify
And often on:
Tiktok
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Facebook
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Make sure to follow us while you’re there.
Go to the website and leave us a voicemail
Click the microphone button on the lower right.

We start with a listener voicemail about something she couldn't stop doing even though she could see it happening. She'd been telling herself she'd get serious about dating again once she reached a goal. Then, when she reached it, instead of dating, she just set another goal. Sound familiar? This episode explains why some of us keep moving the finish line and how to stop doing it. 

A few months ago, I ran an episode of this podcast that was, let's say, different...and nobody noticed.
This episode is about what technology means for dating, podcasts, and the voicemail sitting on your phone right now.
Do you think you can tell what's real and what isn't? 

The profiles have gotten worse. Not slightly, significantly. The Instagram handle in the serious relationship bio. The wrong age that somehow always gets entered younger. The AI bio with the em dashes in it. The skyline that doesn't exist. The woman who liked you first and spent the conversation taking shots at you. This episode is about what all of it actually signals, because someone is always paying attention, even when you think they're not.

In this episode, I share the conversation that almost never happened: a rematch with a clear political filter that put me in the ‘no’ category. She pushed past it anyway, and what unfolded forced me to confront my own label-based shortcuts, like the flight attendant rule and almost swiping left on someone 20 miles away in Chicago’s brutal traffic. We explore the difference between healthy behavior filters and dangerous assumptions, the invisible cost of missed connections, and how to ask better questions before we decide who someone is.

You're still on the apps. Still swiping and responding. But something shifted and you know it. The curiosity and patience is gone. You're dismissing people in thirty seconds over things that don't mean anything, and calling it standards. It's burnout. And the problem with staying on the apps when you're already this depleted is that something good could show up right now and you probably wouldn't recognize it.

Being alone can feel peaceful, until something reminds you what connection actually feels like. This episode explores the difference between being okay alone and getting used to it.

Episode 50. One year. I didn't think this show would go this far. Today, I'm just sharing what solo podcasting has been like, what I got wrong, what kept me going, and where the Girls Can Tell Podcast stands after a year. I want to thank you personally for listening every week. We almost didn't make it some weeks, but we kept on truckin' thanks to your support. 
Trent & Holly🦮

Most people assume the rules protect them. Until the day they realize rules only matter when someone has the power to enforce them.
This episode is about the moment you realize the world doesn’t operate the way you were told it does.