Girls Can Tell Podcast

No new episode this week, but I promise I haven't disappeared. Some genuinely good stuff has been happening, and I'll tell you all about it soon. In the meantime, here's a look back at some of the best moments from the show so far.
Audio only this week, new episodes return soon on Spotify and YouTube.

No new episode this week, instead, a look back at some of the sharp, funny, and most honest moments from the last 30. New episodes return next Tuesday.

This week I’m doing something a little different. This is an episode of my other podcast, Usefulish, which is a completely different kind of show from Girls Can Tell. So consider this a little detour from our regularly scheduled programming. I hope you enjoy it.

I still have tons of old, dead conversations I've had on the app. This week I went back and reread the ones that went nowhere, some I ended on purpose, and some just sort of ended themselves. Horses, maple syrup urine disease, and a woman who compared a relationship to a newborn baby all show up.
See if you recognize yourself or someone you've talked to in any of these.

Five hundred conversations. Zero dates. Two weeks ago, I was ready to delete the app for good. Then something happened this week that made me stop and ask if I quit one week too early. I don't know how this ends yet, but here's what almost walking away taught me.

This isn't really about concerts.
It's about what people choose to put at the center of their identity, and what that secretly tells you about compatibility.
After decades in radio, playing in bands, working backstage, standing onstage, and watching live music from every possible angle, I've come to a conclusion that surprises almost everyone. It's also one of the fastest reasons I'll swipe left on a dating profile.
Why?
Because "I love live music" often isn't describing a hobby, it's revealing a mindset.
In this episode, I talk about Lollapalooza, dating profiles, getting older, nostalgia, identity, and why the things people proudly advertise about themselves aren't always the things they think they're communicating.
You may completely disagree with my conclusion. That's fine. The more interesting question is whether you're judging dating profiles by what people say, or by what those choices reveal.
If you've ever wondered what someone else's profile says about them, or what yours might be saying without you realizing it, this episode is for you.

Two calls in, before we'd even met, she told me something about her ex-husband that should've ended things on the spot. I almost let it slide anyway. Here's why I didn't, and what I've learned about believing people the first time.
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I share a building with 500+ people and can't remember the last time a stranger there turned into anything. Not a date, not a friend, not even a regular conversation. This week I figured out why, and it's not the building, it's not the city, it's not even really about being single. It's the same reason dating apps had to exist in the first place, and once you see it, you can't stop noticing it everywhere.
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My ex contacts me every three or four months. The message is always the same formula, she has something to tell me, but she never says what it is. This episode breaks down textbook avoidant behavior, why she vanished the last time I responded warmly, why she'll never acknowledge what ended us, and the uncomfortable part about why her three-month cycle is perfectly timed to the exact moment my memory finishes editing her back into someone worth answering. And yes, I'm calling it now. She'll be back in October.
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Politics has become one of the biggest filters in modern dating—but I don't think politics is actually the real issue.
Over the last year, I've noticed something changing on dating apps. People aren't just telling you what they believe anymore. They're telling you who they refuse to date before you even say hello.
So when did politics stop being something we discussed and start becoming part of our identity?
In this episode, I look at how curiosity, open-mindedness, echo chambers, and social media have changed the way we approach relationships. This isn't about picking a political side. It's about asking a much bigger question:
What happens to dating when we've already decided the other side has nothing worth hearing?
I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments. Have you noticed the same thing on dating apps?
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