Girls Can Tell Podcast

You Filtered Me Out Before You Knew Me

In this episode, I share the conversation that almost never happened: a rematch with a clear political filter that put me in the ‘no’ category. She pushed past it anyway, and what unfolded forced me to confront my own label-based shortcuts, like the flight attendant rule and almost swiping left on someone 20 miles away in Chicago’s brutal traffic. We explore the difference between healthy behavior filters and dangerous assumptions, the invisible cost of missed connections, and how to ask better questions before we decide who someone is.

Why You Keep Swiping on People You Don't Care About

You're still on the apps. Still swiping and responding. But something shifted and you know it. The curiosity and patience is gone. You're dismissing people in thirty seconds over things that don't mean anything, and calling it standards. It's burnout. And the problem with staying on the apps when you're already this depleted is that something good could show up right now and you probably wouldn't recognize it.

Is Anyone Really Okay Being Alone?

Being alone can feel peaceful, until something reminds you what connection actually feels like. This episode explores the difference between being okay alone and getting used to it.

Fifty.

Episode 50. One year. I didn't think this show would make it this far. Today I'm not teaching anything or making a case for a position, I'm just talking to you directly. What solo podcasting actually costs, what I got wrong, what kept me going, and where things honestly stand.

People Can Do Whatever They Want

Most people assume the rules protect them. Until the day they realize rules only matter when someone has the power to enforce them.
This episode is about the moment you realize the world doesn’t operate the way you were told it does.

They Will Never Be "Ready"

"I’m not ready” sounds mature, responsible, and self-aware. But what if it’s just a softer way of saying no? In this episode, I unpack what readiness actually means, when waiting is wise, when it’s avoidance, and why nobody ever reaches a point of being fully healed before love.

The Breakup Story You're Telling Is Wrong

Ask anyone why their last relationship ended and you’ll hear a very confident story. The problem is, most of those stories aren’t accurate. This episode breaks down how and why breakups get rewritten over time, why nobody thinks they were the problem, and how that mindset will completely wreck future relationships.

How to Lose a Date In 10 Seconds

Everyone thinks dating success comes down to chemistry, texting, or what you say on the date.
Most second dates are lost long before the conversation even matters.
In this episode, we’re talking about the small, brutally simple things people notice instantly (like hygiene, presentation, manners, effort) and why skipping them silently kills attraction before you ever get a real chance.
Nobody tells you this stuff. They just ghost you.
You need to hear these things, so let’s talk about them.

Dating Apps Are Keeping You Single And Alone

Dating apps didn't stop working because you got older, they stopped working because they were redesigned not to work. The apps realized their most profitable users are the ones who never succeed.
This episode breaks down how dating apps shifted from helping you find someone to keeping you just hopeful enough to stay, why the pool is now full of the emotionally unavailable, and why you keep blaming yourself for a system that was never designed for you to win.

You Can't Stand For Boring

When you start dating someone who is emotionally available, it can feel…off.
There’s no anxiety, no guessing, and no emotional rollercoaster. They text you back, show up, and don’t disappear.
And somehow that can feel less exciting than someone who’s inconsistent, grieving, or still emotionally attached to their past.
In this episode, we break down why emotionally healthy people often don't feel as exhilarating at first, why emotionally unavailable people feel magnetic, and how your nervous system confuses mayhem with chemistry.
If you’ve ever felt more drawn to someone who couldn’t fully show up than someone who could, this episode will explain exactly why, and what it means for the kind of relationship you’re actually building.